Robin Steele

From time to time people get upset with me because I am unable to personally connect with them.  Most folks in this category simply quit coming without addressing it.  Ever once in a while, I will get an email with their frustration.  I am polite in response and let them know that I am sorry.

The truth will not console them, however.  The truth is that I will not be able to connect with everyone personally.  If that is what they need, then they will have to go to a smaller church where the senior pastor can personally be involved in everyone’s life.  In our church, I don’t know everyone personally.  In fact, I don’t know every one’s name or….even their face.  I see people in the store that go to our church and I don’t recognize them.  I don’t say anything to them (because I don’t recognize them).  I am not trying to be rude, but I don’t know them.

I intimately know all the people that get involved in the church.  I know every man that attends Wed morning prayer at 6am.  I can tell you about their marriage, their kids, their hangups, their physical fitness, etc.  I know all the volunteers that get to the church at 8am on Sunday morning.  I know all the people that attend leadership meetings and serve at events like ‘trunk or treat’.

I am saying all this because this past week Erica got her first letter about not being a good pastor’s wife.  I could tell you all about the letter, but I will let you read it for yourself.  (I have taken out or changed anything that might reveal the author.)

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