Sex Drive

This Sunday Erica and I will be talking about sex at our church. While at a coffee shop this morning studying, I received a call from Pastor Randy Phillips. After I told him this weeks topic, he said, “what?!”. I asked him if he had any “advice”.
He said he had recently asked God to remove the sex drive from the world for 5 years. Just think of the positive things that would bring to the world. All these things would not exist for five years:
* sex slavery/ trafficking
*child molestation
*sexually transmitted diseases
*broken marriages from affairs
*emotional damage
*disobedience to God’s word (sin)

On the positive side, we would loose:
* consummation of marriage
* procreation of more kids
* intimacy between spouses
*10-15 minutes of physical pleasure


Randy went on to say the God was “quiet” after this request and it wasn’t answered “yes”.

So, we must live in this balance between the risks and rewards. We must live in the midst of people that have completely different values. We must live in the midst of thousands of media messages that are opposed to Biblical teaching…

There’s a lot to talk about Sunday…



About pastorrobin

Hello. I pastor PromiseLand Church in San Marcos, TX. I am married to Erica, and we have 3 kids: Kennady, Jude, and Avery. All little ones! Visit our church site at

Posted on November 4, 2010, in Church Business, Daily Word and tagged , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 5 Comments.

  1. Just a thought, but I think your positives list is shy of a few things. Sex isn’t just something we do, it’s a gift. And yes, like with any gift we have the ability to use it for good or for evil. If we use the gift of sex for good, then there’s way more than just several positives. It’s not just intimacy we gain in sex, it’s an expression of love that only two people in a committed relationship can have. That expression is found nowhere else in the animal or human kingdom. Sex can be transforming, allowing a woman or man to express him/herself in a way that perhaps he/she can’t find words for. I would also suggest that sex can be way more than 15-20 minutes of pleasure, given the right dynamic and setting.
    Personally, I think sex is one of the most powerful God given gifts we have, which is why it causes so much harm when used for evil.
    Sex can demoralize young girls, sex can corrupt money and marriage, sex causes violence and brokenness….. but it’s only when we can talk about these things, talk about sex in a way that is beautiful and sacred that the abuse of it will start to see its way out the door.
    I applaud your speaking about it and praying about it. And I’ll keep you in prayer, as I believe this is one of those topics that really is key to a better and more sacred Kingdom on earth.

  2. Thank you, Jill. I appreciate that input. I agree!

  3. Good pcomment Jill. Sex is also good exercise 😀 Something to add to the good list. haha. I’d additionally say that many of the items on the negative list (lust, rape, child molestation, homosexuality…opps that one isn’t on the list) are not necessarily driven by sex so much as control, dominance, etc. And Lust drives lots of things (ei. addictions) not just sex. Maybe dealing with the lust drive (the spiritual issue of lust) would be better asking for no sex drive…. Remember what Ephesians says, “we wressle not against flesh and blood…” (even our own flesh and blood).

  4. Great insight, Jill. I agree with your contention that sex is a gift specifically designed by our creator for all those reasons you have so eloquently stated. Because of the built in drive we have and the intense although fleeting pleasure its consummation brings, human minds have twisted and misused the original purpose of sex seeking more and more gratification. I see this as just one more symptom of a deeper root cause where self is the center of the universe instead of God. Remove self as the purpose of life, replace God on that pedestal and sex will once more be returned to its rightful place.

  5. 1 Thessalonians 4:1 Finally, then, brothers, we ask and urge you in the Lord Jesus, that as you received from us how you ought to walk and to please God, just as you are doing, that you do so more and more.2 For you know what instructions we gave you through the Lord Jesus.3 For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality;4 that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor,5 not in the passion of lust like the Gentiles who do not know God;6 that no one transgress and wrong his brother in this matter, because the Lord is an avenger in all these things, as we told you beforehand and solemnly warned you.7 For God has not called us for impurity, but in holiness.8 Therefore whoever disregards this, disregards not man but God, who gives his Holy Spirit to you.

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