Ok, since pulling the plug on Facebook two and a half weeks ago, I get a call, email, or text almost everyday from someone new. They all want to know why they can’t find me on Facebook. Here are some of the actual responses I have received. WARNING: This might seem a little bitter, hopefully no one gets offended. I’m still in the healing process…
- “Where are you?” – It’s as if I have disappeared from the world. I guess I have. I have disappeared from the center of the social world. Facebook has become the beginning and end of connecting to others. The answer is: I have not gone anywhere. “I” am not a social network profile. I am a person. Living and breathing and exist separate from my social networking avatar. Though it might disappear, I am here.
- “Why aren’t you my friend anymore? What did I do wrong?” This one amazes me. They say this because I don’t show up as their friend anymore and assume that means I removed them. The truth is I removed myself. I am still your friend. You didn’t do anything wrong. The answer to these questions is… everything is not about you. This is the reason I got off Facebook (for a while). I was beginning to believe everything on Facebook was about me, too. Everything is not about you. It is about everyone else. They think everything is about them. This is where it gets real confusing.
- “How can I keep up with you?” Read my blog, follow me on Twitter, invite me to lunch, come over to my house, come to my church, invite me to your church, call me, email me… there are a lot of old fashion, very effective ways. Don’t be lazy. Invest in me and I will invest in you.
Yes, I will return to Facebook someday. There is a responsible way to connect, just like there is a healthy way to watch TV or surf the net. However, I am not ready to return.
I wonder how many folks do not read my blog and not know the reason for my decision. The ones that have contacted me represent a larger group that haven’t taken the time to contact me. The ones that contact me interestingly don’t respond after I tell them I have left Facebook*. They simply leave it at that. And, I guess I will too.
*except: Scott Carley and I talked about having lunch. Thanks, Scott! Love you, man!
Haven’t seen my original post on why I left? Check it out!
Here is a great article on how to control your Facebook time: Facebook